Cool down mommy!

 "OMG, look how fab she looks even post delivery. Her baby is 4 months old and look at her glamorous avtaar!", my friend exclaimed while reading some filmy gossip. I glanced at what she was reading, "Oh! This heroine, yah yah, why not, she has 2 nannies 24/7 round the clock. She neither has to change diapers nor stay awake late into nights. She doesn't have to get up early to cook and clean. I hope atleast she's breastfeeding her baby, else 'formula' also works for them. Also I am sure she doesn't have to  maalish and bathe the baby too. They've people to do all the errands for them ya", I lectured my friend, in an irritated manner.


"Cool down darling, what's gotten into you? Are you judging them?", she said, moving her hands lower and lower, gesturing me to calm down.


"I am not judging, but what I said, not all of it is false, right? We fall into all those gimmicks and think motherhood is one easy sail through cool waters. And here, actually, we are facing currents, storms, waves and tides, and what not", I added.





"We know that the advert showing the new mom in full makeup, her skin glowing as if she just had a facial treatment, is actually a model. Yet we fall pray to it when she bathes the baby in the colourful tub in an elegant bathroom, using tons of baby products. How serene it all looks. The baby is smiling, the mom is all decked up. But in reality, most of the babies shriek like they aren't been taken to bathe but being punished. Moms are all sweating, specially the new ones, who are anxious to hold the baby. The grip shouldn't be tight to make the baby uneasy nor should be sloppy to avoid the baby to slip. Massaging oil is another art", I was blabbering all the way.


My friend laughed, "Have you seen that ad where baby sleeps as soon as the mom sings a lullaby and then the mom and dad get cuddly and all?".


"Hah.....that is the height. I guess after the baby is born, the cuddles are only reserved for it. Husband and wife play the roles of dad and mom primarily....Cuddling...just a dream", my irritation was rising.


My friend laughed her heart out. "I totally agree on this. I don't remember the last time we had....", she stopped mid sentence.

But I knew what she meant.


Busy mothers and fathers are drained, exhausted, they really don't find the 'us time' till the kid becomes independent. And sometimes it takes an era.


Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had ~ Linda Wooten.





AUTHOR'S NOTE: My thoughts on Motherhood expectations Vs reality. 

Though the conversation is imaginary, the essence is real.

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